December 13th


BDSM PRACTICE: BONDAGE

Someone will say: FINALLY! Well yes, here we are, the most interesting and articulate practice of the whole advent calendar.
Let’s bust the myth of how you pronounce it: you read it as “Bondaj”, with a j che reminds of a sound similar to SJ, not “BONDEIG” as a lot of people say.

Let’s start off by saying that Bondage was born in the land of the rising Sun (Japan) where it was used as a “prisoner constriction”, as they tied their hands and feet with strong ropes.
In fact, the term Bondage means “slavery”, not to be mistaken with SM (although they’re still part of the same world).

So what does it mean and what do you practice in bondage? Nothing easier than constrictions and immobilizations of limbs and body parts.
But there’s a clear difference between American bondage and Japanese bondage.
Japanese bondage, being born in the Samurai era, was indeed used to tie the prisoner in order to immobilize them.
So this discipline, that culminated in pleasure, created to different 2 different “roping” streams: Shibari and Kinbaku that are nothing but the result of a very ancient art that donates pleasure to the slave by feeling the contact with the rope.
These 2 types are often related to the physical pleasure of feeling connected, bound to their Dom or owner that using these ropings create real works of art.

American bondage is instead the one called soft bondage or hard bondage, so all the immobilization techniques you need to create pleasure either in a minimal way or full. You use ropes, chains, hoods and it’s (usually) combined another technique to the one already being practice, for example spanking.
There’s a reason why Waterplay is also called “water bondage”, you do it bound, never as a free slave.

In conclusion, it never has to be confused with SM or other techniques, here we’re talking about a pleasure on its own, where all the knots are used to create pleasure.

What do you think?